When two INFJs find each other, they’re lucky. After all, only one in one hundred people is an INFJ.

INFJs have many desirable personality traits. They are kind, generous, and helpful to others. When friends or even strangers are in trouble, INFJs hurry to the rescue. They’re ready to offer creative solutions or hands-on support.

Whatever their relationship, they can depend on each other to behave with integrity—whatever the setting. What they do is consistent with their ideals. While the two don’t make a fuss about their standard of ethics, it’s apparent in everything they do.

The reluctance of INFJs to accept praise is partly due to the introverted nature of their personalities. Their desire to avoid the spotlight reflects their need for privacy. In general, they’re at their best concentrating on their ideas and inspirations—not engaging in social niceties.


INFJs usually forge lasting friendships when they’re lucky enough to find each other. If they have a common objective, they’re almost sure to work together harmoniously. They’re so persistent and stubborn in their pursuit of goals that they almost always achieve them. INFJs are formidable as a team. If they meet resistance, they only get more determined. Working together, they’re highly respected because of their quiet strength and ability to support each other. Even at play, they’re a delight to be with because they’re so companionable, honest, and usually good-natured.

Because of their shared introversion, they tend to prefer each other’s company with no one else around. When they’re enjoying themselves, they’re sometimes unwilling to invite others into the inner circle. They would do well to make friends with a few extraverts who can encourage them to share their fun or work. Spending time exclusively together can cause them to stagnate without their realizing it.

INFJs are a pleasure to collaborate with when they don’t get too driven. They are clear-thinking, intelligent, and witty. Together, INFJ friends are keen observers of the human scene. It’s hard to put much over on them, because, by the time they share their insights with each other, they’ve usually covered all the bases.


When two INFJs become romantically attached, they may feel shy about showing their affection at first. They aren’t big risk-takers in the business of romance. At first, they make subtle gestures to encourage the object of their affection. They’re cautious about expressing their feelings for fear of rejection.

If INFJs seem aloof, it’s because they do such a good job of hiding their feelings. It isn’t easy for them to make their emotional needs known. When two INFJs recognize these qualities in each other, they generally have the patience to fish for clues. Eventually they reveal themselves.

Once two INFJs are fully in touch, they’re delighted with the treasure they’ve found. Both have rich imaginations and quick minds. They inspire each other to grow and develop without being controlling.

If, for some reason, the INFJ/INFJ match isn’t working well, the dissatisfied partner may postpone a separation because the intimacy is so important. In cases where one is married and the other isn’t, trouble may be the result. Since INFJs are loyal and ethical, they’re unlikely to leave a marriage partner. If they do, they experience guilt and remorse. This isn’t good for any relationship.

When two INFJs break up, both suffer. Neither forgets the other. Some longing will always remain. INFJs are focused, intense human beings.

Home Life

INFJs are idealists as partners and parents. They desire harmony, sometimes avoiding family conflicts that should be resolved by direct means. When disagreements arise, INFJ partners do well to find privacy and quiet time to discuss them. Because they’re complex people with subtle feelings, conflicts need to be sorted out carefully. Bold confrontations tend to backfire and cause resentments.

As parents, INFJs encourage their children to develop a number of skills and get a good education. They will sacrifice considerable time and money to this end. If the children appear rebellious, uncooperative, or difficult for any reason, INFJs try hard to discover the source of the problem. As long as the children put forth genuine effort and appear to be making good use of their intelligence, the parents are mostly happy.

The INFJs’ home has an abundance of books, sports equipment, musical instruments, and other paraphernalia scattered around as evidence of the couple’s many interests and hobbies. The more they can share these as a family, the happier they are. At the same time, each needs personal space where he or she can have privacy.

The homes of INFJ couples are sometimes neat and organized, sometimes cluttered. It depends on how caught up they are in current hobbies and interests. Keeping an orderly environment feels good, but it’s not top priority. Their surroundings may be cluttered but their minds are extremely organized.

Secrets of Success

INFJs have a strong attraction for each other. They’re also intense and focused. To keep their relationship healthy, they need to preserve their needs for personal privacy while, at the same time, cultivating social outlets. They should give each other the space needed for individual pursuits but spend time with friends, too.

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