Inertia–Getting Stuck

Why is it so hard to stop doing one thing and start another?  Even when I dislike the thing I’m doing? My inertia baffles me.

I sometimes lie in bed in the morning reliving dreams of the night before. It’s a miserable way to spend time, but I’m hooked on the drama.  I know that getting up and making coffee will dispel the gloom and lift my mood. But do I do it?  No. I stay in bed another half hour, hypnotized by my thoughts.  .

Or a feeling of angst closes in when the sun goes down. I may have been happy as a clam all day—busy and productive. Then going from daylight to nightfall leaves me uneasy. I could catch the last light of day and take my dog out for a run—an activity that gives us both pleasure. But do I? No. I poke around aimlessly. It’s easier.

Inertia shadows me.  I don’t want to move out of the space I’m in just because that’s where I am and it’s easier to stay than to move

It’s crazy.  Someone please explain it to me.

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  1. Belle says:

    I understand. I do the same things.

    I sometimes think it’s depression, but I most recently have thought it might be a way to force ourselves to take the time to attempt to solve problems in our lives. In our “aimless” “poking around” and pondering, do you think the possibility exists we are subconsciously organizing our thoughts in order to make important decisions?

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    • beaconadmin says:

      Kelli, I think your insight is accurate. INFJs do need time to turn things over in their minds, meditate on the ramifications of problems, and entertain solutions. We arrive at informed conclusions that arise not just from our intelligence, but from our intuition, which operates to some extent in our subconscious. When I get depressed for a few days over a troubling relationship, say, I want to be alone. My friends accuse me of isolating. They say I think too much. Hey, someone’s gotta do it.

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      • Lilly says:

        I’m an INFJ and also get these moments. You’ve got me wondering if it might be a case of needint time to process an “intuition backlog.” When I’m busy and rushing to get things done I often hit a moment of anxiety where I feel like I haven’t been listening to my intuition enough, and then suddenly I’m thinking oh dear maybe I shouldn’t have done that/gone there/said that/spent that money/been so friendly to that person I don’t know very well. I need days and moments like this when I’m not faced with new things to intuit and can just let my mind wander wherever it wants to and sort out the backlog. Once my mind has worked through some things and quietened down again I’m ready to face the world and, I guess, take on the next lot of background mental calculations.

        After reading this I think I’ll be less tough on myself for those times where I used to think I’m avoiding being productive, and remember instead that my mind is always hard at work!

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        • beaconadmin says:

          Because INFJs are thoughtful and critical of themselves, they often “overthink” their hunches and intuitive insights. Their initial hunches are usually right on target, in my opinion. It’s when self-doubt creeps in and INFJs begin to contemplate all the reasons why they may be wrong that this type starts to go astray. Of course there are occasions—-as I know well from personal experience—-when hunches that arise from the INFJ’s strong intuition combine with the impulsiveness that arises from the person’s judging preference, and the result is rash behavior. But we INFJs usually know that we’re asking for trouble in situations where we should investigate the facts a little more carefully. In general, I’d say, trust your intuition. It’s seldom wrong.

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